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Saturday, August 13, 2011

What Steve Taught Me....

Readers-

I decided to dedicate this post to someone who made an impact on my life.  Today, I learned that a friend of mine passed away from results of a motorcycle accident last night.  I have never dealt with death very well.  I always seem to push people away and deal with my feelings on my own terms.  But I'm not looking for sympathy, instead I wanted to share with those of you who read this blog what Steve Henaman did to make me who I am today.

I first met Steve when I was 5 years old in preschool.  I never knew him before then.  There were only four boys and six girls in our class.  I had known the other boys, Jess Ciavarelli and John Coyle, for a while through Sunday School but somehow Steve and I became great friends.  We always fought John and Jess for the two fire helmets and we were the pilots for the make-believe airplane trip to Hawaii.  After every day, he'd go to his grandpa's truck and bring me a piece of candy.  Steve was my first best friend.  After preschool Steve and I drifted apart a bit.

Steve had made a big impact on my life though.  Throughout elementary school, I had difficulty "fitting in".  I pretended to be someone that I wasn't.  I made stupid jokes and, in a roundabout way, wasn't who I really was.  In eighth grade, Steve said something to me that I have always held near to my heart.  "Bob, you're a great guy and everything, but people like you more when you're yourself.  You're a lot funnier and fun to be around.  Be yourself."

 If Steve had never said that I don't believe I would be where I am today.  He gave me motivation and confidence in myself.  I never thanked him for those words and now I will never get the chance.  But God knows that I am thankful that He brought Steve into my life.  He was a great friend and a pretty damn good co-pilot on the make-believe trip to Hawaii.

Steve Henaman February 1, 1989 - August 12, 2011